Rhythm series: rest

Ever since I can remember I have been a planner. Sometimes to a fault. You know those kids in school who write everything down in their agenda? The adults who buy all the stationary goods?  Love or despise planning, natural skill or not, paper or phone, figuring out a way to set rhythms for our lives is essential to living an intentional and purposeful life. Annie Dillard said it best: “How we spend our days is, of course how we spend our lives.”

There are certain seasons when it feels like the things we spend our days on are not important. Seasons when everything feels mundane and unimportant. And then there are seasons when it feels like the train is barreling down the tracks so fast that it won’t stop and you can’t get off. Seasons when everything feels urgent and important.


In this rhythm series, I hope to pass along some keys I’ve learned that establish rhythms that work for your life. Before diving into the nitty gritty details of schedules and planning, this post’s focus is rest.

It really is senseless to work so hard from early morning till late at night, toiling to make a living for fear of not having enough. God can provide for His lovers, even while they sleep. (Psalm 127:2, The Passion Translation)

In our lives there will always be a time to work and a time to rest. If we don’t give ourselves permission to rest, the fear of lack and scarcity will rule our choices and decisions and our actions become frantic and aimless. It could be fear of lack in any area of life that prevents rest; scarcity in finance, relationships, time, opportunities, and a hundred and one other things that can keep you up at night.


Things in life produce and grow when given periods of rest. Bread dough bubbles up and rises with rest. Soil is most nutritious when given a break every few years. The muscles in our bodies heal and grow with recovery time. I’ve been guilty of striving and toiling and things get ugly quickly – small stresses and annoyances suddenly become a huge deal.

Rest is a space cushion, that safe distance between your car and the cars around you, in our lives keeping us safe and giving us room for movement. It’s the margin that allows for flexibility and overflow.

Here are some keys to establishing rhythms of rest:

  • Figure out what brings you rest
  • Find ways to gracefully say “no”
  • Disconnect: turn the phone on airplane mode or off
  • Do one thing restful everyday (even if it’s only 15 minutes)
  • Plan one extended restful activity once a week (could be half a day or a whole day depending on your season in life

Figuring out what brings you rest can be tricky. Resting is different than crashing; it’s intentional not mindless. Maybe it’s taking a walk, reading a book for pleasure, listening to music without doing anything else, going to an art gallery, running, journaling, browsing the aisles of your favorite store, road tripping, taking a bath.

Regardless of everything else going on in your life, set time aside each day and once a week that is sacred and immovable to rest. In the beginning of creation the need for rest was established – we are at our best in every other area of life when this is a rhythm in our lives.


If you want to dive deeper into this topic here are some good resources:

Rhythms of Rest by Shelley Miller

Chasing Slow by Erin Loechner

Crazy Busy by Kevin DeYoung

Deep Work by Cal Newport

In Praise of Slowness TED talk 

The Art of Stillness TED talk 

 

 

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Making the most of early summer: tastes, sounds, and discoveries

Here in Michigan winter and summer collide. We have a few sporadic spring days sprinkled between winter temperatures and then suddenly the days are long, humid, and green. This seemingly overnight season change is a shock and jolt to the system.

Eating seasonally towards the end of winter and beginning of spring is challenging and when the first summer harvest arrives, my tastebuds are ready for the freshness of greens and strawberries and rhubarb. In this post, I’m sharing some of the seasonal foods we’ve been loving, some things to listen to, and a few recent discoveries that have totally blessed the early days of summer. Scattered throughout are a few photos from a recent Saturday lunch of arugula pizza, mesclun salad, and the most luscious farmers market strawberries.

Tastes of early summer

Spring greens are such a refreshing taste and flavor after months of root vegetables, soups, and stews. Here are some of the things I’ve been doing with our early summer harvest of greens:

Arugula/rocket: this peppery, hardy leaf grows so well it can be overwhelming if you don’t have a few different ways to use it. A few that I love include:

Simple salad: arugula, juice from half a lemon, olive oil, salt and pepper

Pizza: bake your choice of dough/flatbread, cheese (I like mozzarella or goat), and maybe some proscuitto then throw a generous handful of arugula on top after it comes out of the oven

Pesto: whiz together arugula, walnuts, olive oil, lemon juice, parmesan cheese if you like, and salt and pepper until it’s the consistency you like and use as pasta or pizza sauce

Spinach: rich in nutrients, it’s hard to say no to the health benefits of garden fresh spinach. Ways I use it most often:

Frittata: basically a panfried then baked egg dish – I love the combination of spinach, baby potatoes, asparagus, and feta cheese

Scrambled eggs or omelette: sauté spinach with a little onion then added to some eggs with goat cheese served with some whole grain toast makes a delicious meal

Smoothie: throw a banana, frozen blueberries, a handful of spinach with some nut milk and nut butter in a blender for a refreshing snack

Rhubarb: this secret vegetable is one of my late spring, early summer favorites. It’s tangy, fresh flavor remind me of my grandma’s strawberry rhubarb pie. Some ways to use it:

Muffins: there are so many lovely recipes for rhubarb muffins floating around Pinterest. These ones made with applesauce are simple and tasty.

Crisp: throw some cut up rhubarb, sugar, cinnamon into a baking dish and top with your favorite oat crumble/crisp topping and bake

Jam: this rhubarb chia jam recipe is so simple and healthy

Strawberries: they don’t last longer than a day in our house eaten straight out of the bowl

Sounds of early summer

Rebekah Lyons: Being Free Part 1 and Part 2: few podcasts make me stop everything I’m doing to sit down and just listen. Rebekah’s powerful testimony and speaking ability communicates some of the most foundational truths about who we are in Christ with such grace and heart that I felt challenged and inspired afresh. Take a listen. You won’t be the same after.

Hillsong United’s new album Wonder: full of beautiful songs, this album is breathing life into summer right now. So Will I (100 Billion X) has been on repeat the past few days. It’s one of the best contemporary psalms/hymns I’ve heard in a long time.

The Simple Show: Tsh Oxenreider is so easy to listen to and the most recent episodes about summer travel and hospitality are practical and inspiring.

For some more serious listeningInvisibilia Season 3 recently began and it’s just as phenomenal as seasons 1 and 2. Sorta Awesome episode 99 is one of the best discussions I’ve heard regarding talking to kids of all ages about their bodies, reproduction, and sexuality. This list of books and resources from the podcast is amazing – I’ve checked out all the books for preschoolers from the library and they have been so good.

Early summer discoveries

The Organically Clean Home by Becky Rapinchuck: about a year ago, I began the slow process of using up pre-made cleaning products and then making my own. While I love Pinterest, it feels like a rabbit hole of information that is hard to climb out of. This book is clear, concise, and full of recipes and tips for literally everything. It’s free on Kindle, which is amazing if you have a kindle or even have the kindle app on your phone. I borrowed it from the library and will be adding a physical copy to my own personal library once I return it.

No-Drama Discipline: The Whole Brain Way to Calm the Chaos and Nurture Your Child’s Developing Mind by Daniel J. Siegel: with summer break just around the corner and two preschool aged kids who don’t nap, I’m looking for all the resources about parenting these days. This book is practical and well researched. There is a cheat sheet at the end that is perfect for printing out and sticking on the fridge as a constant reminder of the solid principles found in this book.

With every new season, there is the opportunity to try new things and make a shift in life. Cheers to enjoying these long, warm days and all the lush sights, nature sounds, season fresh tastes, and all the summer sensations!

 

The Grass so little has to do –
A Sphere of simple Green –
With only Butterflies to brood
And Bees to entertain –
And stir all day to pretty Tunes
The Breezes fetch along –
And hold the Sunshine in its lap
And bow to everything –

(Emily Dickinson)

 

Meaningful gifts on a budget

Making the most of the season means spending less money and more time with family and friends. It’s about savoring the still small moments and creating space to be intentional and thoughtful rather than consuming and spending.

Gift giving this time of year can sometimes be difficult. My heart is much bigger than my wallet. Every family has its own traditions. For our kids we follow the 4 gifts tradition: something they need, something to read, something to wear, something they want. Our extended families draws names for the purchase of a big gift and then we each bring a $1-2 stocking stuffer for everyone. This is helpful for everyone’s budgets and in past years stockings are filled with chocolate, socks, and all other types of fun goodies. This year I felt inspired to create more meaningful gifts while staying in the $1-2 budget per stocking stuffer.

Here are some ideas that require little money, but are thoughtful and personal. I would love to hear what you all do to stay on budget while still giving intentionally.

Blackout poetry 

My sister inspired me with this one. She purchased an old book for $1 from a thrift shop and found some frames for $.25. Create fun, whimsical, thoughtful poetry from a page of a book, frame it, and wrap it up. You can personalize each poem for every person on your list.

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Coffee or tea cup with tea and a line a poetry 

Here in the midwest hot drinks and blankets are necessary for making the best of winter. Buy some unique tea cups or mugs (I thrifted mine for $.25-.50) and some of your favorite teas. Fill the mugs with tea bags or looseleaf if that’s your jam then attach a line of poetry or an encouraging note to the handle.

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Stamp art 

Slightly similar to blackout poetry, this one requires an old dictionary, stamps, and an ink pad. I found an old Webster’s for $1.50 and bought some stamps on clearance for $2-3. I’m using a bunch of old frames that have been collecting dust and have been handpicking pages with fun words or meaningful words to use.

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Coloring pages

Maybe you’re not super crafty or don’t have time to dive into a big project this season. If you have book loving family and friends or friends who love to color, there are shops on Etsy where you can purchase a digital file of coloring pages for $1.50. One of my favorites is Carrot Top Shop. She has characters from Chronicles of Narnia, Anne of Green Gables, Jane Austen, and many more classics. Purchase, print, and roll up with some beautiful ribbon and maybe even a few new colored pencils.

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Cloth bookmarks

For all those who love sewing and stitching. My mother-in-love finds the softest, highest quality wool sweaters or flannel shirts from thrift shops and creates the most gorgeous bookmarks. If digging through racks in thrift shops isn’t your thing, craft shops have packs of flannel you can purchase for this homemade gift. Plus you can get as creative and personalized with the patterns or pictures you create.

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Homemade hot chocolate mix

The best hot chocolate ever is homemade. When I worked at a restaurant in high school I discovered the Hershey’s recipe on the back of a cocoa tin. Mix up a big batch, fill little mason jars, and attach instructions for mixing for your sweet tooth loving friends and family.

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Jars filled with old fashioned candy

There’s something nostalgic and sweet about a jar full of peppermints or rootbeer candies. I love the bags of old fashioned candy sold at Hobby Lobby and other shops. Save up a few jam jars or sauce jars, buy a bag of animals from the dollar store, spray paint the lids and animals your preferred color and fill the jars with candy. It’s super fun for the little kids and big kids in our lives.

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Handwritten letter

It will take some time, energy, and thought. A handwritten letter to friends and family full of encouragement, musings, reflections on the past year, and hopes for the year to come will be treasured for years to come. You don’t need beautiful handwriting or expensive stationary to write a meaningful message. Check out this Instagram account for some inspiration in the letter writing department.

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